I recently overheard a woman talking with a friend at a café. She was bright, beautiful, sipping her trendy latte and seemingly someone who totally had her act together. Yet, after a few minutes of talking, a darker side emerged. Her enemy - Worry.
She is constantly worrying and allows it to get in the way of her dreams. It stops her from going for the things that she wants in her life.
I wanted to step in and talk to her - to help her - but of course it wasn’t my place.
Most of us occasionally have tinges of worry, and that’s fine as long as we can quickly catch ourselves, put things into perspective and move on. I recently found myself anxious about a group presentation I was doing. I didn’t know anyone in the group and caught myself worrying if my presentation would be good enough and what they’d think of me. I soon remembered the words I’d always say to my mother (a professional worrier in a league of her own!).
“Worrying does nothing to help you or the person you’re worrying about. It’s far more helpful to use whatever energy you put into worrying into finding solutions instead. “
So I took a few deep breaths, expressed appreciation for have the opportunity to present to them, remembered that they had invited me as I knew more about the subject than they did, and committed to be myself and do my best. The presentation went great!
Serendipitously, soon after my engagement I came across a post about worry written by Natalie Ledwell of Mind Movies. It’s a great summary and includes some of the things I do myself, so I’m sharing it with you as well.
“Are you constantly haunted by the feeling of worry?
If you often find yourself obsessing about the future or dwelling on the past…you're not alone!
The truth is, most people spend a lot of time worrying, (usually about things that never actually happen!), which can negatively affect health, relationships and inner peace…
The good news is - you CAN break this bad habit, and to help you, here are my best 6 tips for letting go of worry and fully embracing your life.
Tip 1 - Set aside time to worry - Instead of worrying all day, designate a 30 minute period of time where you can think about all of your challenges and how you might overcome them. If you find yourself worrying outside of that time, force your mind to another topic.
Tip 2 - Problem solve - Use your designated worry time productively! Get creative, find solutions to your worries and then confront them head on.
Tip 3 - Let go of control - Accept that some things are outside of your control. If you decide that there's nothing you can do to change a situation…accept it and then let it go.
Tip 4 - Cultivate appreciation - If you find yourself constantly worrying, try to focus your mind on things you’re grateful for. When you do this, you’re shifting your energy into a more positive space and opening yourself up to experience joy rather than stress.
Tip 5 - Love yourself - Be sure to put aside a little time for yourself to relax, spend time with friends and family and to reconnect. Taking time to love yourself allows you to focus on what's really important and to shift your mind away from useless worry.
Tip 6 - Be here, now - The vast majority of time we worry about things that have already happened or will never happen, which robs us of the joy in the present moment. Practice mindfulness by focusing your attention on the here and now.
Like any habit, it will take consistency to drill this new way of dealing with ‘worry’ into the core of who you are, so I’d suggest getting started today!”
“Worrying doesn't empty tomorrow of its troubles. It empties today of its strengths.”
Wishing you no worries,
P.S. Is worrying getting in your way, robbing you achieving your dreams? While I can’t help the woman in the café, I can help you. Imagine how great you’ll feel in 2016 by taking that step to live the life you want. Let’s chat about what that path can look like – just for You. The session is complimentary, and guaranteed to make you feel better. Scheduling is easy with my online booking system: Schedule Now
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