It was ironic.
I had just picked up my IPad, thinking I might check out the latest on Facebook, when I glanced over at a stack of reading material that had been piling up (anyone else know what I’m talking about?).
Earlier that day I’d been thinking “when am I ever going to get through all of that” and now here I was – I had a choice.
It was getting late and I just wanted to chill.
I thought to myself, well, I could look at FB, or I could pick up something out of that stack.
I chose the stack. I was tired and not in the mood for big, mind-expanding heavy reading, and I noticed sticking out of the pile was a publication called BottomLine Personal that has short articles that quickly get to the point (hence the name – BottomLine).
I picked it up, started reading and as I turned a page, I had to smile. There in front of me was a reminder of one of the best gifts I’ve ever received.
The gift came not as a package with lovely shiny wrapping and a sparkling bow, but rather as words I heard from a very wise soul. And here before me was a variation of those words, written as a brief snippet by Linda Sapadin PhD – a psychologist & success coach.
It was a tip on how to stay motivated – by saying I “Could”, instead of I “Should” – as in:
- I could exercise
- I could walk the dog
- I could meditate for 5 minutes before watching TV
- I could start a journal
As Dr. Sapadin says:
“The word “should” is burdensome, connoting you must do it, while “could” is empowering, carrying the message that you have the right and the capacity to decide what you’ll do.”
I couldn’t agree more. To me, “I Should” feels tight, restrictive, confining. It brings out rebellion and defiance in me, and feelings of shame if I choose not to.
“I Could” feels freeing and positive. It opens up options and I get to choose. It unleashes an amazing new energy for me.
Such power a switch of one word can make.
Give it a try – I’d love to know how it works for you.
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Wishing you the power of “Could”!
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