I was sitting at my kitchen table enjoying a cup of tea and flipping through FB when I noticed a self-deprecating post on a friend’s page. She’s often prone to depression, and her words cut into my soul.
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me."
I have no idea why those words popped into my head, but it was like a lightning bolt had struck and I found myself obsessing over it a bit.
Per Wikipedia, "Sticks and Stones" is an English language children's rhyme. It persuades the child victim of name-calling to ignore the taunt, to refrain from physical retaliation, and to remain calm and good-natured.
Sure, the rhyme is intended for kids, and yes, it is wise to "refrain from physical retaliation and to remain calm and good-natured." Basically, let it go and move on.
And as we move from childhood into adulthood, most of us (at least most of the time), are pretty good about refraining from the physical, and outwardly, remain calm and good-natured.
In fact, we often can deal with what others say. Through compassion, or by "considering the source," and maybe the passage of a little time, we can let them go.
But as I thought about it, there's more to it. Because words Can and Do harm. And, it's not just others' words.
What about the words we use when we speak about ourselves? Let's face it, we talk to ourselves FAR more often than others talk to us. That's where the real "damage" can happen.
It reminded me of this quote I love:
“Be careful how you talk to yourself, because you are listening.”
Whatever you say to yourself, you start believing. What you start believing, you become.
Love starts with self. So how about every time that internal ugly voice starts to speak, you pause, take a breath and say, "I unconditionally love and approve of myself."
And over time, you will.....
Wishing you kind words,
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