This word has been appearing in waves lately - from the lips of acquaintances, clients, friends, my own lips, and from Agatha - that annoying voice inside my head too!
The words may sound like echoes to you…
“Why couldn’t I have a normal family?”
“Why didn’t I chose a normal career?”
“Why isn’t my body normal?”
Perhaps you have your own “normal” yearning?
Whether a mental or physical condition, a personality “quirk” or a state of being, why can’t I be “normal” resonates with more people than you can possibly imagine.
But what is “normal” really?
According to Google: “conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected; the usual, average, or typical state or condition”
Human beings have an estimated 30 trillion cells (that’s 30,000,000,000,000 - a lot of zeros!), plus an even greater number of bacterial cells. That intersection influences every who, every what, every why.
Toss in the influence of all those whose lives have intersected ours - and it’s mind-boggling that anyone’s life could approximate anything “usual, typical, expected or average”!
When I think about the infinite possibilities – the complexity of the human being defies any concept of normal. It makes my brain hurt.
“The Only Normal People Are The Ones You Don’t Know Very Well.” Alfred Adler
We’ve been conditioned to think others states of being are better or worse based on some grasping attempt at defining what we - what “normal” - should be? We live in a place that values sameness, because sameness feels safe.
The fact that we are all different - all unique, all not normal - is what keeps it all interesting. Now let’s embrace that uniqueness.
“Normal is just a setting on the dryer”
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Wishing you your own uniqueness!
P.S. Struggling with your sense of normal? Let’s chat and unravel that self-talk that’s stopping you from being your best self.