I was sitting in a popular local cafe, surrounded by moms trying to keep toddlers in their seats, several business people furiously slurping soup and gulping down a sandwich before heading back to the office, students – earbuds in, jamming to their tunes with textbooks and I-pads in hand, and lots of entrepreneurs meeting up in their “office” with the lure of free wi-fi (been there, done that myself).
I was meeting a successful, independent businesswoman at the urging of a trusted acquaintance who was sure we would hit it off and find areas to collaborate to help each other’s clients.
I liked her before we even met, when she sent me a text saying she’d be dressed very casually. That was music to my ears on a busy Friday. Whew – no pressure to “dress for success” and I could save a few minutes from trying to figure out what to wear.
The conversation was great as we shared the journeys to our current careers, stories of job histories, bad bosses, bad ways we dealt with bad bosses, our families, hobbies, work goals and life goals. We packed a lot into the first hour.
And then, as she was asking a question about something I can’t at all remember, she suddenly moved forward in her chair, jutted out her head and changed the subject mid-sentence. With an elevated voice, she asked:
“Do you eat anything “bad”?
I was so caught off-guard. It was such a change in conversation. I can only imagine the look I had on my face.
“What do you mean by “bad”? I asked, although I was pretty damn sure I knew the answer.
She wrinkled her nose, turned her head suspiciously and replied, “You know - sugar, junk.” Yep – I was right, I did know what she meant.
“Sure – of course I do,” I replied, “although I don’t call it “bad.” I LOVE dark chocolate, and have been known to eat, let’s just say, more than just a small square,” I said smiling.
Of course the health coach side of me rumpled stirrings of anxiety, and I felt compelled to say more (I’m looking forward to the day when I don’t feel the need to justify myself…a work in progress).
So I followed up with something like, “over the years though, my taste has changed a lot, I’ve really cut back and I pretty much only eat really good, high quality stuff.” (All of which is true, by the way. Hmm – justifying myself again. Time to stop that!)
She nodded and seemed to relax a bit. I told her that for the most part, I don’t label foods as “good” or “bad” (if they’re REAL food). And I don’t know anyone who can honestly say they don’t crave foods, that IN EXCESS, are “bad.”
It was awkward for a moment, but we got back on track. I’m still not sure what was going on that caused her abrupt change in conversation. Maybe it was the incredibly divine scent of cinnamon pastry that was wafting through the café (it was pure intoxication, I must say).
Or, maybe it was remembering the errand she was going to run after our meeting. Her son was coming home from college for the weekend and she was off to buy his favorite candy – and hers too.
Regardless, I know that a lot of us have insecurities about what we eat or think we should eat.
My advice - Relax. If you eat well most of the time, an occasional indulgence is fine, and can even have benefits, including staving off overeating. More to come on that next week.
Wishing you only Good!
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