"It’s been an emotional holiday season for me. This is the first holiday season without either of my parents. 😕 This was such a good reminder today, as I added to the list how grateful I am to have had them as long as I did. 🤗"
This was an impulsive Facebook post I recently made. The image I’d seen over a year ago, a re-posting from someone named Yandy Smith (who I don't know, but just happened to see the post and it really resonated with me.)
When it recently popped up as Facebook memory, it struck an even greater emotional chord. Tears and tissues were the order of the day, as I'd hear my parent’s favorite Christmas songs or pull out a holiday decoration.
My emotional parade started just before Thanksgiving as my siblings and I were making our holiday plans. This year there was no need to worry about how a frail, unsteady body would navigate the stairs into my sister’s house, and no discussion about whether we’d need to adjust our favorite foods to accommodate feeble appetites and dentures.
I faced the reality both my parents were gone.
After the Facebook posting, I received such a tremendous outpouring of support - from casual acquaintances to close friends, some responding via Facebook and others reaching out privately.
Some offered the solace of their experience, sharing that my grief will ease with each passing year. Others shared their own grief, as they too were experiencing their first year without someone beloved.
It’s very unlike me to make such a personal post. I’ve always felt my place was to offer inspiration, not share my sadness, and this was on the edge for me.
I’m so glad I did make the post. It was good for me to remember I’m not alone, and by sharing and taking comfort in others caring, the grief softens.
During this special time of the year, I wish you a truly joyous season.
Time to cherish those you love
True connection and authentic conversation
Moments for personal reflection
Wishing you a wonderful holiday season!
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