I was talking with a woman in what started as a conversation about weight gain and health issues, but it took an unexpected turn - to a house.  She was single woman and had stayed alone for years in her big house despite not having the time, energy or passion to be there. 

The condensed story went something like this:
Chapter 1 - Kids had moved out, but she stayed in case they wanted to visit or needed to move back. 
Chapter 2 - Might have grandkids one day and need a place for babysitting and overnights.
Chapter 3 - Parents getting older and might need to be cared for at some point. Her siblings were either out-of-town or their lives too complicated to care for mom or dad.

In the end, more than ten years passed alone in that big house that she didn’t enjoy, and that required most of her free time and money to maintain. The house had consumed her; she put it and all the people she thought were tied to it ahead of her own needs. She was resentful. 

Did her house signify something deeper about her life? As we chatted, the answer was clear. Yes, she realized the house was a reflection of many aspects of her life. She was so caught up in anticipating everyone else’s needs that she didn’t listen to her own.

She had created her own imprisonment. So she changed the conversation by asking herself some very powerful questions, most importantly, “What Do I Want?” 

Happy Ending - She sold the house. And more importantly, she’s taking care of her wants, her needs. She’s feeling better - physically, emotionally and mentally - than she has in ages, and now recognizes that she really does serve others much better once she serves her own needs first. 

"You can help others more by making the most of yourself than in any other way." Wallace Wattles

Wishing you courage to serve yourself first,

Balance is a Waste of Time

Balance is a Waste of Time

Work-life balance was a mistake from the start. Because we don't really want balance. We want satisfaction.”—Matthew Kelly, author

Balance is a sticky subject among many people. We have careers, partners, children, family commitments, charity work, classes, hobbies, worship time—plus, big desires to improve our health. How can one possibly balance so many things?

I’m going to let you in on a little secret here: You can’t.

Balance. Is It A Myth?
“Harmony” is an easier goal than balance.  Harmony means everything is co-existing in a spirit of cooperation. But whatever you want to call it —harmony, balance, or “fitting it all in”— there is a secret to doing more of what you want and less of what you don’t want.

Want to hear it? I have to warn you that while it sounds simple, it actually takes massive willpower to execute. It also requires that you get absolutely clear on both what you want and what you don't want in your life.

Ready? Okay, here’s the secret:

  • First ask yourself what isn’t serving you. What doesn’t need to be in your life? What is dragging you down? Keeping you awake at night?
  • Have you identified a few things? Now get rid of them. Or fix them. Now.
  • Next, ask yourself what you want in your life—or just this week or even today? What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to do? Who do you want to be with? Focus your energy on these things. Anything that doesn’t fit into this larger scheme… let it go or learn how to say “no.”

I know - you're rolling your eyes at me, and maybe even muttering a few expletives.  Of course you can identify some things, but "getting rid of them" or "fixing them now" -  not so easy!  Cut me some slack - I did warn you it's not easy.  But it is possible.

Ready to dive in and make a few changes? Start with just one thing, give these tips a try and see how much more harmonious your life can be. No balance required.

Are you curious about how to harmonize your health goals? How to fit those into your busy schedule? Let’s talk. Schedule a complimentary consultation call with me today—or pass this offer on to someone you care about! Easy online scheduling: Click Here

I hope to hear from you soon!

Wishing you harmony,